Do you know that one person or several of them that want to make plans and then never bother to call and let you know that they aren't coming? I know a whole family of them. They are my childrens other side of the family.
I spent 8 years with their father and I found out he was quite a procrastonator but I had no idea that was just a portion of the problem. He was also a habitual lyer, cheater, and I could go on for years. We no longer speak and he longer is in contact with our 2 beautiful children Karlie 5 and Gianna 3.
It's because of his lack of contact that he is no longer allowed to even speak to them. See we live in the same little town and I let him chose the days and times that were convient for him to visit with the girls. He did show up faithfully and on time for about 3 weeks then we didn't hear a word from him for 2 months. In that time period I had to deal with my children asking where Daddy was. My then 2 year old would bring me the phone and ask for Daddy. He never called or anything. After that and many other incedents prievious I made my descion to just omit him altogether.
Now I have tried to keep his Mother and other family members around because they love the girls very much. But sometimes its difficult I invite them to the last Birthday Party as far as I knew from our conversation the day before they would be their. Well they were a no show no call, we tried to hold off on the gifts and cake I even tried calling but I didn't get an answer. It's been a week and still no call to say why they didn't show up. It's not me that they are dissapointing its my babies. Which frustrates me so much!
Tonight their aunt whom lives out of town was supposed to come by and pick them up for the weekend. She called me earlier to say she was going to lunch with a friend, then again to say they were at the bowling alley and she would call me when she left. I proceded to get the girls dressed, fix their hair, and pack their things for overnight. They were excited as they havent seen her since Christmas. They were gathering this toy and that one to take along. It got later and later and what can I say no phone call.
Finally around 9 I decided to break the news that they would be spending the night at home with me instead. They were dissapointed but thankfully they were sleepy and went to bed without a fight. I did finally get a phone call around 11pm asking if the girls were already in bed. Yes they were in bed 2 hours ago.
I'm just frustrated I don't want to keep them away from the entire family but it's not fair to my children to be let down time and time again. I used to think it was just him but I'm finding out more and more it must be the family. What would you do in this situation. I'm getting fed up and I am normally a very patient person.
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